Do you know what the odds are of getting bit by a shark? Well according to an article put out by Forbes, overall odds are 1 in 11.5 Million. That’s great!
They also point out that the odds are different if you live in Hawaii and hit the surf on a regular basis. We’re talking 1 in 200,000.
This is probably one of the rare reasons that we can be glad we don’t live in Hawaii?
This article also highlights a boy, Dylan, who was attacked by a bear AND a shark, all within the same year! And THIS validates my own concerns when looking at my own life’s odds.
When Chase passed away and I was pregnant with my rainbow babies, I gave myself pep talks all of the time. You’ll get to keep this baby. Chase was special. He was meant to be an Angel. This child will be able to stay with you and everything is going to be okay.
I didn’t have these talks ALL of the time. The rest of the time, I was bracing myself for another funeral. I would be laying there crying as my husband had the at-home heart monitor over my belly. I would be convinced that the baby hadn’t moved and we were entering the first stages of grief all over again.
After a tragedy, there are sooooo many ways that we can convince ourselves that something else bad is going to happen. This wasn’t our only shark attack, or bear attack, or whatever. Maybe we’re “a Dylan”.
It’s been seven years since Chase passed away. I definitely still have moments of thought that the next bad thing is about to happen. My youngest son just went in to get tubes in his ears and I know my husband and I had thoughts that he wouldn’t wake up from the anesthesia. But these moments are quieter (in my head).
We can’t get rid of these feelings. There will always be that part of the brain that scrolls through the catalog of “what-ifs”. I’m pretty sure it’s chemical at this point.
But giving yourself space for these feelings, acknowledging them and then coming back to the good, is nice. And way less exhausting.
I acknowledge that the bad could happen (I mean, it already has), but I will embrace the good to the best of my ability. I will deal with the bad, as it happens. I’m not going to let it prevent me from getting in the water.
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